The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck

A Counterintuitive Approach to Living A Good Life

Downloadable Audiobook - 2016
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In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is-a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited-"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
Publisher: [New York] : Harper Audio, 2016
Edition: Unabridged
ISBN: 9780062562982
Characteristics: 1 online resource (1 sound file (05 hr., 27 min.)) : digital
Additional Contributors: Wayne, Roger 1984-
HarperCollins (Firm)
Alternative Title: Subtle art of not giving a fuck
Call Number: eAudio

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Beatricksy Apr 02, 2017

I can't finish this. It's self indulgent, shallow, and repetitive. I was looking forward to it after hearing great reviews and watching all my friends read it, but it's disappointing. I guess with a title like that I should have known it was just going to go for shock factor and then not have any... Read More »

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Jan 03, 2020

Hi there - may I pick this up by Jan 5?

Nov 14, 2019

This guy just likes to say f*ck a lot and it gets tedious. The basic point is “don’t sweat the small stuff, focus on what you want and don’t care what others think of you.” Not sure why the book had to be so long. If you’re a frat boy looking for some dude advice, then this is the book for you.

Oct 24, 2019

I thought the following reflections might help give you a fresh perspective on the following belief espoused by the author,

The Belief:
'Shit is F#*ked and we have to live with it"

So what does this belief motivate us to do?

Well for one, to accept that shit is a normal part of life,
So that means everything is the way its supposed to be,
So that means that the world is functioning properly
So that means we don't need to worry to try to change anything because everything is just fine
So that means we should feel relieved, happy that all is the way it's supposed to be, content, joyful, like we can focus on other things that give us more fulfillment, so that we can get more out of life, we can feel at peace, have peace of mind, feel safe, secure, at ease, optimistic, more loving and happy to be alive.

So in summary the belief should make us feel: relieved, happy that all is the way it's supposed to be, content, joyful, like we can focus on other things that give us more fulfillment, so that we can get more out of life, we can feel at peace, have peace of mind, feel safe, secure, at ease, optimistic, more loving and happy to be alive.

I call the statement above the summary statement.

So is that true? Hardly, because the belief actually makes you feel:
frustrated, helpless, de-energized, weak, demoralized, depressed, stuck, trapped, like life sucks and is not worth living.

So that means that the belief is actually toxic and should not be something that is enhancing your life in any way.

So, if you want to truly feel the positive stuff in the summary above here's what you can do:

1. With one hand over your heart and as if you are speaking from there first acknowledge that you see that the summary above is not true and that you want that summary statement erased from your mind, body and life for good.

2. Acknowledge that the belief is in fact toxic as stated earlier and again speaking from the heart ask that the belief itself be totally erased from your mind, body and life forever.

3. Now take a moment, go inside and notice how you feel. You may notice some or all of the following: Feeling lighter, happier, more peaceful, contented,, clear, etc... So if you like how you feel, speaking from the heart acknowledge to your self that you like these feelings and that this is where you want to be.

4. After a few minutes go back to the belief we started with and reflect on how it feels to you now. Notice especially how true or false it feels to you. You may be surprised at the change. If you like the change acknowledge it to yourself as before via the heart.

if you go through this exercise you will find your ability to discern what is true and healthy and what is not to be enhanced so that you can make more healthy and self respecting choices.

Oct 17, 2019

In the beginning of the book, there were too many "F" words to begin with and it got a little bit boring but once you get pasted that then the book gets very interesting.
Its a good book if you are stuck in life or going through something.
Gives you a good perspective of self-respect, relationships and how to let go of things.

Oct 07, 2019

While not particular new ideas, the author wraps his message of anti-entitlement (in more numerous forms than expected) and intelligent priority setting in relatable stories, explanations, and citations to other authors. Some of the profanity is superlative but it's not off putting. While somewhat repetative, it's a good book that combats modern entitlement and aimlessness, it deserves a read, especially by today's teens and 20 something's.

Aug 28, 2019

No. Just no to this book.

Aug 17, 2019

The more of this book I read the more I thought how if the richest 1% wrote a manifesto about why the 99% should be happy with what they have in a rigged game this would be it. For example, on page 119 (ebook) it states, "The pampering of the modern mind has resulted in a population that feels deserving of something without earning that something, a population that feels they have a right to something without sacrificing for it." My take on this self help book is if I want a better life, I should adopt the personal philosophy of the author. I see the next book he is flogging also has the f-bomb in the title. No need to read more.

Jul 20, 2019

I hadn't heard much about this book, so I wasn't certain what to expect. I'm glad that I went into this knowing very little and having no expectations.

The information offered truly is counter-intuitive and rails against the "hippie-dippy, always-think-positive, let-your-wounds-be-your-guide" sort of attitude we so often see when discussing the topic of self-improvement. This will cause a lot of people to recoil, rebel, and resist what is being said. But if you are truly seeking to make changes that will have a lasting impact, then I recommend giving this a go.

Jul 11, 2019

I didn't care about the profanity but the repetitiveness of each chapter was too much. It was basic common sense. I can summarize the this whole book by saying the following:

Accept what you cannot change about yourself or your life and it frees you from that burden. Then move on to do the things you want to do.

That is about it. It is pretty simple. We only have one life to live so get busy living or get busy dying. Your choice.

Jun 17, 2019

Wow. How did I fall for this catchy cover? Useless book, disappointed. I felt I was reading a Cosmo magazine or something written by an arrogant fool. Don't waste your time.

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ArapahoeMaryA Mar 13, 2019

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.

Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.

It turns out that adversity and failure are actually useful and even necessary for developing strong-minded and successful adults.

Aug 25, 2018

"A good life is not a life without problems. A good life is a life with good problems."
“In my experience, the more uncomfortable the answer, the more likely it is to be true.”


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Aug 21, 2019

Coarse Language: This work contains curse words.


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