Love and Trouble

Love and Trouble

A Midlife Reckoning

Book - 2017
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"From the New York Times best-selling author of Poser: My Life in Twenty-Three Yoga Poses, a ferocious, sexy, hilarious memoir about going off the rails at midlife and trying to reconcile the girl she was with the woman she has become. Claire Dederer is a happily married mother of two, ages nine and twelve, when she suddenly finds herself totally despondent and, simultaneously, suffering through a kind of erotic reawakening. This exuberant memoir shifts between her present experience as a middle-aged mom in the grip of mysterious new hungers and herself as a teenager--when she last experienced life with such heightened sensitivity and longing. From her hilarious chapter titles ("How to Have Sex with Your Husband of Seventeen Years") to her subjects--from the boyfriend she dumped at fourteen the moment she learned how to give herself an orgasm, to the girls who ruled her elite private school ("when I left Oberlin I thought I had done with them forever, but it turned out...they also edited all the newspapers and magazines, and wrote all the books"), to raising a teenage daughter herself--Dederer writes with an electrifying blend of wry wit and raw honesty. She exposes herself utterly, and in doing so captures something universal about the experience of being a woman, a daughter, a wife"--Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, 2017
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9781101946503
Characteristics: 237 pages ; 25 cm
Call Number: B DEDERER, C


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Apr 13, 2018

Simply brilliant. I couldn't put it down. As achingly honest as humanly possible.

Jan 20, 2018

It takes a certain amount of hubris to write a memoir, whether your a world-famous politician, or 'just a writer/mother/person'. While I understand why a twenty-something who grew up in Brooklyn might say 'what a pointless exercise in navel gazing', I also see an opportunity for a reader to gain some insight into their own experience. Isn't that why we read? Books give us an opportunity to understand others and to understand ourselves. An insight shared by an author might provoke a sudden moment of clarity in a reader. Perhaps the author and her audience shared a similar experience, but the reader had never considered it from that perspective.

While I didn't love Dederer's first book, Poser, her editorial writing asking what we do with the creative work of horrible men (Woody Allen etc...) made me think. I approached this memoir with curiosity. We share some common demographics (white/middle age/middle class/NW born/raised/settled/mother/married) but had different experiences (internal and external) growing up. I'm nothing like Dederer, and I am just like her. She's a good writer who made me think. That's enough.

May 10, 2017


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